confused

Friend:
we are very confusing

Me:
this is true..

Friend:
but boys are too

Me:
how so?
give us food or a new electronic or tickets to the game and we’re set
go with us to the game and it’s even better

Friend:
well since boys hide their feelings it’s sometimes difficult to know what they are thinking… also being nice to guys is challenging because you dont want them to take it the wrong way and think you’re flirting with them

Me:
yes, we do hide feelings.. but that’s mostly because the culture tells us to (even though that may not be the best thing to do)

Friend:
no it’s really not because girls are so easy to read but that may just be because i am one but at certain moments when guys let their guard down its easy to read them

Me:
if a guy shows all his feelings, he is labeled a homosexual even if he isn’t..
girls aren’t easy to read.. at least to me

Friend:
no he’s not i mean dont cry all the time but be a tad bit more sensitive

Me:
well maybe if not homosexual.. maybe less of a man.. at least by other men

Friend:
but you’re not… like crying is okay but society makes it seem you’re a wuss if you cry

Me:
exactly my point

Friend:
but society doesnt matter only God and His word

Me:
right
but you know guys and our egos

Friend:
just somethings guys do because of their pride is ridiculous

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patience

Me:
don’t place hope in circumstances or people.. gotta place hope in Christ and His plans

Friend:
indeed so, if not you’re just relying on your own instincts and do what you want, instead of seeking what God wants for you

Me:
which is what i think most of the guys are doing

Friend:
i think they are either scared, impatient or not trusting in God enough, that they feel they need to what they need to do to be happy

Me:
yup.. they can’t be content with where they are.. they could be looking at it as a status symbol. i’d be lying if i said i didn’t want a girlfriend, but i’m waiting and trusting God to provide when He deems it good

Friend:
same here; i was praying last night and i was like, God I can be content with being single in college if you want me to, but if I indeed need to pursue someone i need your guidance

Me:
yeah, that’s a good place to be.. we need/have to fully rely on Him for guidance and leadership

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friend zone?

Me:
to me, it’s not like i’m trying to win a prize.. no girl should feel like they are a prize to be won. it’s more of being a good friend and letting God take it from there.. granted a little flirting doesn’t hurt, but you can’t cross the line where it becomes obnoxious

Friend:
exactly! you be her friend and get to know her then after a lot of praying and seeking God’s council you see if asking her out would be the appropriate thing and is she accepts great if not then God has an even better woman out there for you

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step up to the plate

Me:
me and some friends have been talking about how a lot of the Christian guys have trouble being the right type of leader in the relationship and have trouble initiating it so a lot of the girls fall back on the non-Christian guys who seem to know how to begin yet are jerks later

Friend:
i can see that. it’s just because the other guys step up. i hate to be that cut and dry about it, but it is

Me:
so you think the best thing is to just step up and not worry about making things awkward or straining on the existing relationship?

Friend:
that’s why i say ask her to think and pray about seeing if that would be a place that God would lead you too. the guy that i was talking to, sorry i keep going back to this example, but we went out on a couple of different outings, but we were not quote unquote in a relationship. we were seeking God and He just didn’t lead us down the same road together.
but that’s just me

Me:
yeah.. i see what you’re saying
i don’t think now is the best time for me to ask though.. from what i hear she’s not wanting a relationship right now but is focusing on her relationship with Christ

Friend:
but, i’m still single so you could throw that out the door. i will be honest and say that though things are not how i wish they were, i respect the guy for how he went about things.
you just have to go on what God says. that’s how i felt when the guy asked me about things
we’re on His timetable, not ours

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